After five-and-a-half years together, an eighteen-month engagement and countless hours (and weeks, months, year+) of wedding planning, the day is almost here!
I’m so happy for my youngest daughter and my “almost” son-in-law! I can’t wait for their wedding day! But first, the bridal shower…..
The shower took place at my parent’s home. This is the home that I lived in from age thirteen until my own wedding day (I know, I’m a relic from the ancient past!). This is a home filled with life memories and the location of countless birthdays, anniversaries, Christmas eves, baby showers, bridal showers, and even my own wedding reception.
Not only did the weather cooperate with a perfectly beautiful day after a rain the previous day, but the landscaping coordinated so perfectly with the purple, lavender and pink color scheme of the shower. Total accident! We didn’t even notice it until everything was set up.
The bridesmaids and my eldest daughter outdid themselves with every detail, even down to the homemade “poofs”.
The charm of this tea party is that absolutely nothing matched. It really was a combination of many people contributing whatever they owned. All of the china and silver was borrowed from my mother, sister and me; most of which had been handed down from a few grandparents. A bridesmaid came through with the purple and lavender linens.
But, the highlight of the party and the reason my eldest daughter, the matron of honor, wanted a tea party theme was to use Grandma’s china teacups (and the fact that bride-to-be was so taken with the royal wedding that had taken place in the midst of her own wedding planning!).
My grandmother belonged to many social groups. These were not high-society, just groups of neighbors and friends wanting to connect and have fun together. One group she had belonged to for many years had a “secret pal” agreement. On each special occasion, a secret pal would give my grandma a unique china teacup; anonymously, of course. Her collection built-up over the years to include over twenty cups and saucers.
Grandma Flo was the rock in our family. A no-nonsense personality with a fun-loving spirit who “said it like it is” and never worried (really!). She lived to be an alert 101 years-of-age and had the respect and love of her children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren.
Spread across the tables were many china and crystal cream-and-sugar sets filled with pink gerber daisies, soft pink roses (all from our local Costco store – also online here) and purple statice from our garden.
A tea station was set up in the kitchen for everyone to serve themselves prior to heading outside. There were five different types of tea in five unmatched (of course!) tea pots all resting on tea warmers. All of the tea was purchased from The English Tea Store, an on-line store with a great variety of teas at low prices.
The teapot below was brought back from England by my mother and I as a gift to my sister. I can’t remember how many times I had to take this out of my luggage and unwrap it for customs both in the UK and the US! TIP – Save energy and time – shop your local antique stores!
The pot below was my favorite from my Mother’s china set which actually is meant for coffee, but worked out just fine for “The Royal Garden Tea” – a favorite tea at the party! The lemons are from my lemon tree. Does anyone need lemons? I could go into the lemonade business!
Here is the menu of the yummy food which was passed out in courses by the bridesmaids and a helpful niece. The sandwiches, scones, clotted cream and cakes were picked up from a local San Diego favorite, Shakespeare’s Tea Room. Shakespeare’s is a lovely and quaint spot for a tea for two or any larger event. The cost of the food turned out to be the same as purchasing the ingredients and making everything yourself!!! The fruit cups were a few strawberries and blackberries in decorative cupcake papers from Michael’s.
I wish I had photos of the trays; everything looked as good as it tasted. Unfortunately, we had camera issues. The photos here are a combination of my photos, my daughter’s, and my cousin’s (hers are the best). We’ll do better for the wedding!
What’s a bridal shower without a little champagne! The champagne flutes were collected from several family members. Blackberries on sale at Costco.
What I really wanted to get across in this post is to pay attention to what you already have and use it! This shower was done on a budget, but you wouldn’t know it. Were we cringing when we thought, ” What if one gets broken?” as we’re getting Grandma’s teacups out? Of course, but as my Mother said, “These are to be used and enjoyed and if one gets broken, oh well.”
On several occasions, I’ve found interesting items, antiques, or collections in my client’s homes that are kind of take for granted and aren’t really paid any attention to. You wouldn’t believe what I’ve found boxed away in attics, garages and storage units (no basements in CA) – LOL, the glamorous life of an interior designer! These things don’t need to match or coordinate with your decor! Yes, I just said that. A home filled with cherished items is more important than a perfect one!
Not everyone has a home with decades of memories or cherished handed-down items. That’s okay! It has to start somewhere, right? Legacies begin with the memories you create now. Have some fun and see where it leads you. And if somewhere down the line something gets broken while using and enjoying them….. “oh well”.